tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post7507342637010799884..comments2023-05-22T05:23:15.060-07:00Comments on Stillborn: Still Loved: Controversy: baby photos onlineJessicahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09500819457460584740noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-71308325138162815382016-10-24T08:26:11.553-07:002016-10-24T08:26:11.553-07:00Clair, I'm so glad you have found my blog, ho...Clair, I'm so glad you have found my blog, however I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hate that you don't feel safe sharing photos of precious Tommy on your Facebook, but it is a hard decision. You'd think people would be open and accepting of your sweet baby, but they aren't always. I agree, the heartache in your life is always more than enough and the addition of more with people judging you and your son added on top. Big hugs Clair! Please let me know if I can do anything to help. xoxoJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09500819457460584740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-18224134435043771442016-10-16T12:28:57.728-07:002016-10-16T12:28:57.728-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08829315775959425048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-30370715697171428972016-10-16T12:27:19.518-07:002016-10-16T12:27:19.518-07:00I am so glad that I have come across this blog. I ...I am so glad that I have come across this blog. I stumbled across it actually. I lost my son, Tommy, 5weeks ago at 23w3d due to pre-eclampsia and severe HELLP syndrome. And I just last night was thinking of sharing a picture on Facebook. I don't think I will now. There is enough heartache in my life right now so I definitely would not be able to handle people's judgement of my son. I love him and I am so incredibly proud of him. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08829315775959425048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-80617084561408875712012-09-24T07:21:54.420-07:002012-09-24T07:21:54.420-07:00I am so very sorry to hear about all three of your...I am so very sorry to hear about all three of your precious angel babies. I cannot imagine being all alone in the hospital, with no one coming to see them. Jacob was precious and I am very happy that some of his grandparents got to share in loving on him with me for the little bit of time we had. My heart aches for you. I hope you continue to try and share your photos of your babies. They are special and deserve to be acknowledged. <3 Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09500819457460584740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-26924681825991722632012-09-23T15:10:11.930-07:002012-09-23T15:10:11.930-07:00I'm glad I found your blog; I was beginning to...I'm glad I found your blog; I was beginning to think I was the only one with stacks of baby photos that no one cares to see (especially my family). My first son came too soon at 18 1/2 wks and then I had twins that were also born prematurely at 20/21 wks. I am really hurt that my family, and others, refuse to acknowledge my children. I have seen beautiful videos on YouTube of premature (deceased) babies surrounded by loving family members celebrating their birth and existence at the hospital. I don't think I will ever get over the fact that no one, not one person, came to the hospital to see or hold my babies with me. I was all alone in my happiness and grief and that sometimes hurts the most. supersjhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15457077940655104039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-85447008542215431602012-08-20T14:22:08.708-07:002012-08-20T14:22:08.708-07:00Hannah I hate to hear that you too have been on th...Hannah I hate to hear that you too have been on the receiving end of hurtful comments about pictures of your little love Lily. I am glad to know that you too have had enough and are standing up for baby loss parents and the only thing we have left of our precious babies. I look forward to reading your post on the subject soon. I hope that nothing of this nature ever happens to those who were so ugly and that like you said they have to "eat their words". :) Hope you are having a great Monday!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09500819457460584740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-53234462404148578812012-08-19T12:53:20.603-07:002012-08-19T12:53:20.603-07:00Yes, thank you for writing this. It angers me so m...Yes, thank you for writing this. It angers me so much how people act! I got some nasty comments about sharing Lily's photos which made me feel self-conscience for a while. But, she is my baby and I am proud of her just as any mommy is proud of her baby. So, I will not stop sharing photos of her! She is perfect and beautiful. I do only share the photos that are a little more "sensitive" to people that can't handle all the photos if you know what I mean. Right now, I am working on a post about how friends and family can help when they know someone who loses a baby. I am definitely addressing this! People have no idea how much we treasure these only priceless photos we will ever have. I am glad you wrote this and proud of you for standing up for Jake and yourself! Sorry those "friends" were such jerks! Forget about them! I hope it never happens to them and then they will have to eat their wordsHannah Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03789383446266473340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-75415915643124294772012-08-11T09:31:43.605-07:002012-08-11T09:31:43.605-07:00Tesha I am so sorry that you have had to experien...Tesha I am so sorry that you have had to experience the ugliness that some people feel the need to share. Sometimes I wish people wouldn't say everything they think. I know Jonathan is a beautiful boy and that his mommy and daddy and his big brothers and sisters loved him more than imaginable. I sure hope that one day people will realize they were the ones who made mistakes being so harsh to already hurting mommies and we just wanted people to see the love we have so much of for our babies.<br /><br />I was thinking about this subject last night, and the Duggars came to mind. I feel so terribly sorry for the wrath that has come down on them since the stillbirth of their daughter Jubilee. It's one thing for us to have a couple of people saying mean things... I can't imagine having the whole world after you in one way or another. <br /><br />Praying for you Tesha!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09500819457460584740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-81915092179638094052012-08-11T09:13:19.139-07:002012-08-11T09:13:19.139-07:00Lisa thank you so much for stopping by my blog. I...Lisa thank you so much for stopping by my blog. I am so thankful that you have some photos of your sweet Finley from before he passed away,so that you and your husband can enjoy looking at them together. I think that it's great that you respect your husband enough to not post photos online so that he may accidentally see them. I am so happy to know that people are kind to you and supportive when they see pictures of Finley. Everyone needs people like that. <3 Our babies are our world and we love showing them off.<br /><br />Hope you have a great Saturday!<br /><br /><3 JessicaJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09500819457460584740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-27610782831968153182012-08-10T21:19:13.150-07:002012-08-10T21:19:13.150-07:00Happy six month Jake! Well I am right with you it ...Happy six month Jake! Well I am right with you it is so very sad that people do not get or even try. I am very sorry I know these comment have caused you pain because I have experienced this pain first hand. I would love to show everyone my Jonathan I am so proud of him but the rejection I feel by the comments is just to much. Jake is beautiful and I love you love for him! Praying for you in this difficult time. Thank you for writing this and educating others!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14497636907002853665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356703745796989190.post-43852976993058747892012-08-10T13:45:38.952-07:002012-08-10T13:45:38.952-07:00Very well said I think. I struggle with this becau...Very well said I think. I struggle with this because I would share all of my photos in a heartbeat but my husband doesn't want to see the photos of our son from after he passed so to be fair on him I don't post them publicly. We are lucky to have a couple from when he was still alive, though they are very few.<br /><br />Everyone that has seen his photos from after he passed has been so supportive, but then they are only people I really trust. To be honest if people were upset about it, I think I would just delete them. Like you say, it's YOUR Facebook page and of course you want to share your child who you are so proud of.<br /><br />Lots of love,<br />Lisa<br />http;//dear-finley.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11156015722355587810noreply@blogger.com