Thursday, July 12, 2012

Flowers for his funeral

      On the Tuesday before Valentine's Day, I was out attempting to order flowers.  Not for any happy occasion though.  I was searching for the perfect flowers for my Jake's funeral. I first went to the florist here in my hometown.  The ladies tried to be nice and helpful.  I was just not liking what they were showing me.  The flowers they had to display were droopy and lacking color appeal.  I wanted his arrangements to include blue Hydrangeas and white Roses.  The ladies at this florist dashed all of my wants, telling me that hydrangeas wouldn't last... they would wilt too fast and they weren't willing to budge on what I wanted.  They brought me ugly yellow daisies that I didn't want and were trying to add white carnations as well... neither of which I asked for..  I was in tears, thinking this would be all I had to choose from.  Finally, we made the decision to leave and see what other florists in the area could offer.


        At the second florist, the owner was so very friendly and didn't mind showing me every single book with casket sprays and stand up arrangements she had.  She had beautiful flowers to display and even called the flower wholesaler she uses while I was there to ensure she received the flowers of highest quality for Jake's funeral.  The sweet florist, whose name is Janae, also agreed to put little stuffed animals into the arrangements if we brought them to her, along with the baby print ribbon I told her I would like.  I left feeling elated.

        Shopping for the ribbon and animals for these arrangements was hard work emotionally.  I had been out of the hospital two days and was having to do things I had never dreamed of.  First, I traveled to our local Hobby Lobby to look for baby ribbon that most people would include in a standard baby mum, this made me teary eyed... so I was walking with tears in my eyes... when I came face to face with the ex-wife of my brother in law, who gave me ugly looks from where she was busy stocking ribbon on the shelves, even when I tried to smile through my tears.  I turned around and left the store, nothing was worth being made to feel like I shouldn't be in a store, especially when I was looking for my son's funeral.  I next went to Michael's and escaped the ugly looks and found some ribbon with tiny blue baby feet and also a solid baby blue ribbon.  These were perfect and I was again on my way.  The next day, it was time to shop for the animals.  We tried several department stores with to no avail.  Finally , we ended up at trusty Wal-Mart.  My son and I had to face the baby section.  HORRIBLE TORTURE that was.  There's nothing like going to look for cute baby animals three days after losing your baby, and knowing the animals you are purchasing are for your son's arrangements at his funeral.  We ended up purchasing two that day... my son wanted to buy the giraffe... I wanted the elephant. : ) They went great with the flowers we had chosen.

          Janae went above and beyond her call of duty, going in to her shop early in the morning so that she could complete the blue heart arrangement i ordered with Hydrangeas.  This was so that they would look their best on the day of his funeral.  She will never know how grateful I am for her.  After the arrangements were complete, she rushed them to the funeral home, so they could be delivered to the cemetary in time for Jacob's graveside service. My heart still smiles to this day when I think of all she and her floral shop did for me in a time of great grief and heartache.

          These are the flowers from Jake's funeral.  I wanted them to be original.  My son was original and deserved better than droopy flowers and generic sprays that could have been made for anyone.  I left knowing that what we had ordered would be perfect.

I loved the sweet blue bows in his spray



Blue hydrangeas with white Stargazer lilys

The spray of yellow and white daisies my sister, brother in law and niece ordered for Jake's service




This beautiful arrangement was ordered by Jake's Great Grandmother <3

This arrangement was ordered by Jake's Great Grandmother Nancy


This arrangement was ordered by my former co-workers at the District Clerk's Office

This sweet arrangement was ordered by a good friend of my mother
  

14 comments:

  1. SO beautiful! Hygragias are my favorite! So much so that they were the flowers at my wedding :). Love the sweet animal touches!

    xoxox

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  2. Thank you so Hillary! I love hydrangeas too, I had planned on hydrangeas at my wedding as well! My favorite flowers are Lilies. I love those little animals too, they're both on my dresser now.

    Xoxo

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  3. His flowers are absolutely beautiful! Hydrangeas are one of my favorite as well.

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    1. Thank you Ashley. I am very happy with the way they turned out. :)

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  4. What beautiful arrangements!!! Big hugs mama!!

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  5. My heart goes out to you. The arrangements were perfect and indeed special. I'm glad that you were able to meet a sweet florist who could make an already difficult day a little easier. Prayers Always.

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    1. Thank you so much. I most definitely appreciate each of your prayers Aisha. :)

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  6. They are Beautiful!!!! Great job honoring sweet Jake!

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  7. Perfect and beautiful flowers! I love the giraffe and elephant :)

    I of course had roses and lilies for my Lily's services :)

    It was truly so strange to plan her service, especially when I was recovering from birth. Thankfully, my mom helped with most of it. She's the best!

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    1. Hannah it is the second most horrible situation I've dealt with, having to plan Jake's funeral. I thought of most everything while I was in the hospital alone the night he was born. In some ways it helped me get through the night. I too had family also to help with things I had forgotten. I am so glad you have a great mother that helped you through such a hard time.

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  8. Wow really nice flowers Flowers for Funeral
    thanks for this blog ?

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    1. Thank you so much. I know that when I was searching the internet for infant floral sprays, there were few. My goal is to help other parents books when it comes to funeral planning.

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